Your Truth

One of the values that shape your life

By Arlene Harder, MA, MFT and John Fabian, Ph.D.


"Spiritual empowerment is evidenced in our lives by our willingness to tell ourselves the truth, to listen to the truth when it’s told to us, and to dispense truth as lovingly as possible, when we feel compelled to talk from the heart.”
— Christina Baldwin

“Let us accept truth, even when it surprises us and alters our views.”
— George Sands

“What a word is truth. Slippery, tricky, unreliable.”
— Lillian Hellman

“Not only are there as many conflicting truths as there are people to claim them; there are equally multitudinous and conflicting truths within the individual.”
— Virginia Peterson

Most people would say they value truth. But people often hedge their bets when asked to declare what is true for them—as Lillian Hellman notes, truth can be “slippery and tricky” to determine.

If truth is important to you, how do you make sure you are a straight-shooter, assuring with whatever facts you can assertain, what is true before declaring it before the world?

Answer the following questions to clarify how you arrive at what you consider to be true.

Topic Stimulators

  • What sources do you trust to give you the facts and concepts that back up your truth? Close friends? Family members? Social media? Internet? Literature?
  • How do you double-check the factors and facts that gives backbone to truth that is so important to you? What is the critical thinking and problem-solving process you use?
  • Who or what has been the most persuasive in getting you to cling to something you call true?
  • Have you ever allowed yourself to have the wool pulled over your eyes by accepting something that you later found out not to be true? How did that happen?
  • Do you accept or reject the scientific method in showing that something is true?